That which is absolutely necessary.
It’s a concept many have heard for years in rather abstract ways.
In November I had the honor of reviewing a course that explained this concept in the most practical and compelling way I’ve ever heard.
It’s begun a journey for me that is not yet a routine, but well on its way.
It’s helping me learn to say yes to the best and no to the good and the urgent.
It’s given the freedom to delegate or let go of those things that are not absolutely necessary, and focus on those things that only I can do.
For me and so many of you, this includes loving our families the way they need it. I’m sure this has changed for you over the years, as it has for me, and will continue to do so as our families change with each new season of our journeys. It’s a constant learning process and as much as we would love to just have it figured out and be done, I fear we would grow a bit careless going through the motions without the necessary attention.
And then there’s the struggle with this whole concept of self-care. Libraries worth of books have been written on the topic, so let’s just suffice it to say that it feels selfish and we can quickly feel justified and even heroic in its neglect sometimes. It seems such a silly thing to write, and yet it so easily creeps into our routine that we don’t even give it a second thought.
So tonight, after an exciting but long weekend, followed by the blessing of some extra hours at work yesterday and feeling a little under the weather, I’ll be doing a bit of that self-care thing. Watching a little Fixer Upper. Finishing up my grocery list. Catching up on some reading. Sipping coffee. Slowing down.
So how about you? How are you at this self-care thing? What advice do you have for those of us who are basically pretty pitiful at it?
If this is something you’re trying to learn too, then I have some hope to offer! I recently completed and have begun implementing the principles on a new e-course called Finding Time to Hold Dearly by my friend, Sarah over at She Holds Dearly. It’s a valuable investment in you, your family and the sanity of both. You can check out her preview here and next week you can look forward to a full review of her course. It’s a game-changer that has already impacted the calm in my mind and our home.
And let’s be honest, the calm in my own mind and the tone of calm in my home is an essential. It’s a priority and one of those things that only I can do.
It’s an essential. I’ve known it for years. I’m still working on the keeping of it.